We are anticipating a hot, dry summer here in Vancouver (yessssss!), which means I need a few outfits that I won't melt in. Here's the thing: I over-heat easily. Even in the Winter, I can't wear heavy sweaters. I have an 8-minute walk to work and, no matter how slow I go, I am dripping with sweat by the time I arrive. If we really are going to have a hot summer, I need to invest in some natural fibres so I'm not a complete mess:
I know what you're thinking. I would throw a cardi on for daytime wear.
To the man who ran along side me for my first half-marathon...
...and is always ready to enjoy a glass when I open a bottle.
Who still hangs my pictures and helps me throw away junk. Who runs, cycles and swims yet still knows the value of a good nap in the afternoon. Who told me I don't need to wear make-up to be pretty and who taught me the importance of having a good man in my life.
One of the great perks of working at my firm are the fun events we get to attend. Last week, our COO flew out from Toronto after attending some sessions with Sheryl Sandberg in regards her Lean In initiative.
There were some inspiring stories and I left the room feeling better that (cliche alert) I was not alone. It was good to know that women, even powerful women who are in much higher positions than I, have dealt with the same fears and doubts that I have. Good to know, but also a bit alarming, I suppose. Why do we feel this way?
My favourite quote was, "Women are scared to sing their own praises". So. True. We always give credit to others before ourselves. "Oh, so and so helped me with it." "I had lots of help." "It was pretty easy." All responses I've used when my work gets complimented. I'm going to try and change this behaviour.
This week's question was interesting. What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
This is such a simple question. So many responses popped into my head. I will share with you what I anonymously wrote down: Do more public speaking.
I love talking. I am at ease around my friends and family and I can even talk among strangers. Put me in front of an audience and I freak out. I think that cannot do it. Yet I have. I know I can because I've been forced to and I feel great after I do it, but I don't want to. No desire at all. We're talking nervous breakdown territory. So scared of failure.
The problem isn't with getting upset and crying. When I AM FORCED to talk in front of an audience, I can do it. I just sound unprofessional which makes me lose confidence. Maybe I'll do a vlog and you'll see what a valley girl voice I have. Like, whatever.
If I wasn't afraid, I would concentrate more on my presentation skills and make a point to speak up more in front of people I normally would remain silent around (I'm looking at you, boardroom full of lawyers).
So I look to you guys for suggestions -- what can I do to improve my delivery? How can I sound professional and articulate?